Deciding between writing your own personalized wedding vows and using pre-written traditional wedding vows can often be tricky.
On the one hand, personal greetings are exceptionally intimate and meaningful to the bride, groom, and their guests present. At the same time, however, using personal greetings can be stressful and overwhelming, and some couples prefer to exchange these words in private rather than in front of all of their friends and family.
With that said, traditional vows can be very beautiful and just as meaningful for couples while removing that element of stress. Beyond that, traditional vows are also considered very sacred.
“The nice thing about traditional vows is that they tie you into all the history that came before you, and when it’s time to repeat them, it’s almost like muscle memory,” says Andrea Eppolito, a wedding planner and an event designer. “The beat starts and you can relax and not worry about what you are going to say. Traditional vows are very classic, easy, and as foolproof as it gets. “
Shayla Kelly, Marketing Director of Weddings + full events, agrees with Eppolito. “The final the weeks leading up to a wedding can be busy and stressful, so using traditional wedding vows is really one less thing you have to think about and practice, ”she notes. “Your parents may also have read the traditional wedding vows, [allowing you to create] an amazing video of your wedding vows and your parents reunited.
Eppolito continues: “If you are religious, your place of worship will have a set that you can walk through. Otherwise, the internet has a wide selection of traditional wishes and verses that you can mix and match to match your relationship.
If you and your partner have decided to use traditional vows, there are several options to choose from. And we’ve provided plenty of examples to inspire you. You can start with these traditional vows, which we’ve taken from various wedding websites.
1. Traditional Protestant / Christian marriage vows
“I, ___, I take you, ___, to be my husband / wife, to have and to keep, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for the richest, for the poorest, in the sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part, according to the holy ordinance of God; and to that I pledge my faith to you [or] I am committed to you. ” (Going through The knot)
2. Traditional Quaker Vows
“In the presence of God and our friends, I take you as my wife / husband, promising with divine help to be a loving and faithful husband / wife to you as long as we both live.” (Going through Martha Stewart Weddings)
3. Traditional Jewish wedding vows
As the bride and groom exchange rings, each says, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine. Then there is a recital of the Seven Blessings, also known as Sheva Berakhot. Here is a translation, supplied by Brides:
“Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, Sovereign of the universe, rejoice your beloved companions as You rejoice your creatures in the Garden of Eden. Blessed are You, Adonai, Who makes this couple happy. Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, Sovereign of the universe, Who created joy and joy, loving couples, cheerfulness, happy song, pleasure, joy, love, loving communities, peace and fellowship. Adonai, our God, that we will soon hear … the voice of the couple of lovers, the sound of their jubilation of their awnings and of the young people of their festivals full of songs. Blessed are You Who makes the couple happy, one with the other. We bless God for creating joy and happiness, newlyweds, happy song, joy and rejoicing, love and harmony, peace and fellowship; and we thank God for allowing these bride and groom to rejoice together.
4. Traditional Unity Vows
“I, ____, take you, ____, to be the wife / husband / partner of my days, to be the parent of my children, to be the mate of my house. We will keep together what measure of trouble and sadness our lives can impose on us, and we will share together our store of goodness, abundance and love. (Going through A practical marriage)
5. Traditional Agnostic / Atheist Wedding Vow Script
If you are not religious but still want to use traditional pre-written vows, try this agnostic / atheist example of Off Beat Bride:
“Wedding rings have long been a symbol of love – the gold of the ring symbolizes the permanence of the endless circle. _____ and _____, these rings are a symbol of your love for each other. Your rings say that even in your oneness, you have chosen to be bound together May these rings also be a sign that love has substance as well as soul, present as well as past, and that, despite its occasional sorrows, love is a circle of happiness, wonder and pleasure May your life and your family always be surrounded by love.
And then everyone repeats the following: “____, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. By circling your finger, may it always remind you that you are surrounded by my unwavering love.
6. Civil Ceremony Traditional Wedding Vows
“I, ____, take you for my rightful wife [husband/wife]. Before these witnesses, I vow to love and take care of you as long as both live. I take you with all your faults and your strengths as I offer myself to you with my faults and my strengths. I’ll help you when you need help, and I’ll turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life. (Going through Bride’s Guide)
7. Traditional Buddhist wedding vows
“I, _____, take you, _____, to be my husband / wife, my partner in life, and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow and forever. I will trust and honor you, I will laugh with you and cry with you. Through the best and the worst, Through the difficult and the easy. Whatever happens, I will always be there. As I gave you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. “ (Going through Hit)
8. Celtic wedding vows
“You cannot own me for I am mine, but as we both wish I am giving you what is mine to give.” You order the cannon from me, as I am a free person, but I will serve you the way you demand and the honeycomb will taste sweeter from my hand. I promise you that yours will be the name I shout out loud at night and the eyes I smile in the morning.
I promise you the first bite of my meat and the first glass of my cup. I promise you my life and my death, each one being equally dependent on you, I will be a shield for your back and you for mine. I won’t slander you, nor you me. I will honor you above all, and when we argue, we will do so in private and not tell our grievances to any stranger. This is my wedding vow to you. It is the marriage of equals. (Going through My wedding vows)
9. Traditional Hindu Wedding Vows
“Let’s take the first step in providing our homes with nourishing and pure food, avoiding foods that are harmful to healthy living. Let’s take the second step to develop physical, mental and spiritual powers. Let us take the third step to increase our wealth by just means and proper use.
Let us take the fourth step to acquire knowledge, happiness and harmony through mutual love and trust. Let’s take the fifth step so that we are lucky enough to have strong, virtuous and heroic children. Let’s take the sixth step towards self-control and longevity. Finally, let’s take the seventh step and be true companions and remain partners for life through this marriage. “ (Going through Before wedding)
10. Traditional Atheist Wedding Vows
I, ______, take you, ______, to be my partner for life. I take you into my family, and take your family as mine. I promise to love you, honor you and cherish you. I promise to trust you, and trust our marriage. I promise to savor our good times and have faith that the bad times will pass. I promise to value our differences as much as our commonalities. I promise to give you my help and support, and to accept your help and support. I promise to keep my promises and not to make promises that I can’t keep. I promise to always save you the last waltz. ” (Going through Sympathetic atheist)
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Wendy Rose Gould is a freelance journalist based in Phoenix, Arizona. She contributes to NBC, Refinery29, Brides, Allure, Spotlyte, Total Beauty, Soko Glam and others.